Colors of my World

Recently, I listened to Ryan Seacrest on Kiisfm one morning. He invited this guy called Dante Moore who is the author of “The Re-education of the Female” to his talk show. I listened to it, and realized that Moore is absolutely very un-educated. The reason behind this is because of the book he wrote. Moore purports to explain how women should go about sex, relationships and marriage — according to men. Here is his mission as a self-described re-educator.

Let me quote something that he writes in the introduction,  “I want to express my anger and frustration as a man with the women I feel are undereducated, misinformed, and ill-prepared about their responsibilities in getting and maintaining a relationship with a man of quality.” He thinks he is such a man, and thinks that women’s responsibilities include cooking, staying skinny, wearing sexy things around the house and doing whatever your man tells you to do because he writes “”Here’s a little secret, ladies: men never really ask for anything. They command. . . . And believe me, what you won’t do, ten broads around the corner will.” Later on, he writes about how size matters a lot in women “The fatter you get, the more you decrease your potential single-man pool. Let me give you an example. When you go to the grocery store to shop, do you pick out the nastiest-looking, most rotten, smelliest fruit or meat you can find? Oh, you don’t? Why not? . . . It’s the same with men when they see baby elephant-sized, out-of-shape women.”

Honestly, after listening to all these and reading something about this book online ( I would never ever buy his book) makes me have a strong feeling about his statements. I was so tempted to call and tell him that I think you’re the one who needs a real education. I understand he is an engineer. Okay… maybe he is smart, but I don’t think he is smart to the point where he can educate us women. I totally disagree with his statement saying that women should be doing whatever the men ask them to. We are not your slaves first of all! I understand that there are housewives, and trust me, if I were one, I would be cooking and being a good wife. But under one circumstances…. I think men should help too because relationship takes two to make it happen. It sounds like in his book that women are the one to give, give, and give. I hate that when a man just sit on the couch and ask for things that we want, it just makes him look like a big kid; or just sit down there and watch his wife wear sexy lingerie while she is walking around the house. Maybe not walking around the house, but by what he means is that wear it all the time. Lingerie are great, and they make our bodies look very sexy and mysterious. But if I were married, I would wear them occasionally to spice things up, but not to the point where I would wore them everyday, in my opinion, sex life would be boring if I did.

Oh yeah, and also, about the if you don’t do it, and there will be tons of women doing it for your man comment. I absolutely disagree!! If my man would rather have other women serving him, then that means he is an absolute moron because he made the vow of loving his wife and spending the rest of his life with her. Where is the value of marriage then?!

By the way, I’m sure there are some men out there like bigger women. I think that’s very discriminating and swallow of him to say that. People come from different family background and values, and some people just think that maybe they don’t want to follow the media and the world that always misinforms what we should wear and do with our bodies. I’m a size 0 girl, and I still find it very offensive. Then imagine for some of the women.

Frankly, because of all these authors writing books like this encouraging women to do these and do that, and reinforcing men to treat their wives like “slaves”, we are facing lots of divorces in the world. I do not think women need to be reeducated personally, but instead men and women should take the time to discuss and communicate with their spouses or partners to figure out a way to work the relationship and marriage out. A relationship always takes two. Having a person always gives and the other takes is not going to work out; just like maths… a negative (giving) with a positive (taking) always comes out a negative. I’ve heard enough stories on the radio where some people agree and some disagree. I don’t know what you want to say or think, but this is what I think!